Long Distance Relationship 101

And it goes like this:There is a general concensus that suggests being in a long distance relationship is "impossible."Well, I am here to refute this claim. I have been in a long distance relationship for close to 10 months. At first, I did have my apprehensions and reservations. But, like all relationships, it takes time to let your heart and mind work together to decide if pursuing someone is really worth it. Sometimes we end up in a relationship with no real future, and when the relationship ends, we say we've been blind-sighted. I don't believe in that. I think every person has an inkling on how their relationship with someone would turn out. So, when you are pursuing a long sistance relationship, you have to behave as if you are trying to pursue a "real life" relationship. You cannot just go out with someone based off a whim. Well, you can, but chances are, it won't succeed. "Isn't it too hard not being able to touch them?"Sure it is! It's a pain in the ass! Buuuut, the time you spand apart from one another can also build upon the strength of your relationship. For example, instead of "physically engaging" with one another, you may want to focus on your communication skills. Of course, there comes a time when communication via phone, email, text messaging etc is not suffice. in order to make a long distance relationship work, you must be mentally and emotionally intrigued with your partner. You must love them regardless of what they look like, because looks aren't really a factor in a long distance relationsip.Some of you may be thinking, "Dominique, this sounds like advice you'd give to a couple who are living right by each other."You are absolutely correct! Of course it is! Which, brings me to my point. When you are in a long distance relationship, you must strive harder to make your relationship work. You must use basic techniques of being in a successful relationship times 10, to make it work. Being in a long distance relationship is not for quitters, irrational decision makers, non-communicators, and for the superficial. Still wanna have one?
Well, good luck!~Dominique

Dreams

It's crazy how dreams have the power to affect people's reality. I recently had a dream about one of my past crushes. I woke up feeling strange and out-of-sorts. Past feelings didn't return, but memories of those feelings did. I've also realized that you may not want to share these kind of dreams with your significant other...unless, of course, you find that dream may hold some kind of real significance. Mine, on the other hand, didn't. In fact, I feel that me liking my past crush led to me liking my recent love. There are qualities they both exude that are very similar to one another. However, I know why I am with my girlfriend and not with the other girl. Sometimes you think you may still have feelings for someone when only looking at their "good side". We fail to acknowledge the reasons why we aren't with someone else in our state of reminiscing. Bottomline: Dreams are just dreams. Reality is reality. Try to blurr the two, and you find yourself in a state of confusion. Don't let your dreams dictate how you are currently feeling or are not feeling.