Stud Lesbians: Only masculine when it's convenient

Last night before I fell asleep, I had this thought. This thought inspired me to write this specific blog.

"Stud Lesbians: Only masculine when it's convenient"

Let me first define what a "stud" is. Stud: Lesbian who embodies masculine characterisitcs/traits. A stud is the opposite of a "femme", which is a feminine lesbian who is generally attracted to masculine, or butch/stud lesbians. The term stud and femme is often used in the Black LGBT community.

This topic definitely relates to me on a very personal level. In this case, we'll call the stud Lisa. Lisa and I were dating off and on for about a year and a half. During that time, she was the more masculine or stud-like lesbian in our relationship. I, on the other hand, was more of a femme. Now, don't get me wrong, you don't need these labels. In fact, I find relationships work better when you don't label yourself or your partner.

Lisa, on a scale from 1-10 (1=femme, 10=stud), was a seven. She didn't rock men's clothing, but her personality resembled that of a macho-man. Lisa had an inflated ego. She acted like her sh*t didn't stink. She flirted with all the cute girls...IN FRONT OF ME. Lisa was a basketball player. She rocked a fresh pair of Vans each day, and popped her collar 24/7. So, to everyone, she acted like a stud. She was even rude, controlling, and bossy to me AND to everyone.

BUT, no one saw what I saw when we were alone. She was a pillow princess. Don't know what a pillow princess is? According to UrbanDictionary.com, a pillow princess is a woman, usually in a of a curious/bisexual context, who wants to experience pleasure from oral sex, but who is unwilling to reciprocate. But, in this case, Lisa was a full-blown lesbian who was just plain selfish. By day she was a stud, by night the stud-like personna came right off.

Now, I'm not saying studs shouldn't receive sexual pleasure. I am saying that if you are going to have an inflated ego, you kind of need to back it up. You can't be tellin' all your homies that you tap your girl's ass sooooo good, when you've never seriously attempted to do so. This is what I mean when I say studs sometimes only behave like studs when it's convenient for them.

Now, all my stud sistas who are doing their thing, I'm not talking about you. Y'all are cool. I'm simply speaking of the few, in fact probably the minority of stud lesbians, who do this. You can't expect your girl to be okay with the whole stud "get-up" when you only do it half of the time. Bottomline is this: Equality is a must. And yes, there can be equality in a stud-femme relationship. Reciprocity is a must. Plus, it's just plain phony bologna when you're a big macho-stud who doesn't please your own girlfriend.

If any of you have experienced this or something like this, let me know. I really hope I'm not the only one! Then again, I hope I am. No one should go through that!